How to Get Your Ex Back If They Are in a Rebound Relationship
Losing your significant other is tough, but seeing them with someone else is a tall order. Often, seeing an ex with someone new can remind us of all the good times we shared, which sometimes makes us want them back. It is not uncommon to start seeing new people after a break-up, though most such relationships are rebounds that don’t last very long. If that’s the case, you can still try to get your ex back.
Here are a few tips on how to get your ex who’s in a rebound relationship back:
Talk to a counselor or therapist.
It takes two to tango in a relationship. Both parties have a role in relationship dynamics. That said, it is crucial to get objective feedback on what went wrong from epxert professionals, counselors or therapist. Your friends and family are great support, but they can also be biased and want to stand by your side. You may also have friends and family who have been into “tough love, “ and can be biased against you. In that case, a therapist can help you figure out what happened and how you and your partner both contributed to the breakdown, as well as your own attachment style.
Work on Yourself.
Chances are you may be behaving in some of these patterns subconsciously, which can significantly affect how you relate with your ex-partner. Some of the sabotaging patternings are:
1. Lack of Passion
4. Lack of Communication Skills
5. Inability to Commit
6. Lack of Social Skills
7. Lack of Motivation in Life
8. Inability to Trust
9. Need to Control
10. Low Self-Esteem
If you feel any of these points resonate with you, it is time to start working on them. If you don’t know how to work on these issues, speak to a counselor or therapist may be the best thing to do. To start fresh (whether with your ex or a new partner), you must acknowledge the behaviors that are not useful to you. The more self-improvement they see, the higher the odds are of a successful relationship, whether with your ex or without your ex.
The more self-improvement they see, the higher the odds are of them wanting to repair the relationship with you.
The No Contact Rule.
Your ex needs to realize how much they need you. For this to be possible, you must cut off all contact with them for four weeks. Do not call, text, or drunk dial them, even by accident. The chances are that if they miss you enough, they will reach out. However, this rule does not work for everyone. If you feel your ex will misinterpret your attitude as a cold shoulder, skip this tip!
Your ex needs to know just how great you are. Self-respect and confidence go hand-in-hand. When you value yourself, your ex will understand that you deserve the best. When you do get a chance to talk to them, make it clear that you used the time after your breakup to work on yourself instead of crying over them. This will show maturity on your part and prove that you can handle a relationship. Moreover, don’t express jealousy towards their rebound date. It will only make you look weak and lacking in self-respect.
With these great tips, your ex will get over their rebound and be back to you in no time!