Losing your significant other is tough, but seeing them with someone else is a tall order. Often, seeing an ex with someone new can remind us of all the good times we shared, which sometimes makes us want them back. It is not uncommon to start seeing new people after a break-up, though most such relationships are rebounds that don’t last very long. If that’s the case, you can still try to get your ex back. Here are some tips to help you:
1. Speak to a Counselor or Therapist
In most of the cases, it’s your behavior or habits that pushed your ex to the point of breakup. If you suffer from matters that you believe may have led to the breakup, this is the last time to work on them before you rebound does. Some examples of these issues are.
- Lack of Passion
- Extreme Jealousy
- Lack of Communication Skills
- Inability to Commit
- Lack of Social Skills
- Lack of Motivation in Life
- Inability to Trust
- Controlling Nature
- Low Self-Esteem
If you feel any of these points resonate with you, it is time to start working on them. If you don’t know how to work on these issues, speak to a counselor or therapist may be the best thing to do.
2. Work on Yourself to be an attractive personality over Your Rebound
A break-up is rarely a one-sided affair. While you may have had a good many reasons to leave your ex, they must have their fair share of complaints, too. To win them back, you must acknowledge the areas in which you are lacking. Are you too controlling, insecure, or unorganized? Find out why they left you and focus on improving those aspects. The more self-improvement they see, the higher the odds are of them wanting you back.
3. The No Contact Rule
Your ex needs to realize how much they need you. For this to be possible, you must cut off all contact with them for four weeks. Do not call, text, or drunk dial them, even by accident. The chances are that if they miss you enough, they will reach out. However, this rule does not work for everyone. If you feel your ex will misinterpret your attitude as a cold shoulder, skip this tip!
4. Value Yourself
Your ex needs to know just how great you are. Self-respect and confidence go hand-in-hand. When you value yourself, your ex will understand that you deserve the best. When you do get a chance to talk to them, make it clear that you used the time after your breakup to work on yourself instead of crying over them. This will show maturity on your part and prove that you can handle a relationship. Moreover, don’t express jealousy towards their rebound date. It will only make you look weak and lacking in self-respect.
With these great tips, your ex will get over their rebound and be back to you in no time!