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How to Choose a Career Based on Your Personality

When you’re at a restaurant and have to choose a meal from the menu, how do you decide? Remember, the dish you order now will stay with you for the rest of the night. It’s a pressuring decision, isn’t it? Not to mention the exorbitant cost of dining outside. We encounter a similar situation when… Read More ›

Ask Mabel: How do I respond to my child, regarding her attitude, when she says ‘I was born like this?’

Hi Mabel,  My child has had a real attitude problem lately and I don’t know how to approach it. She gets sassy with me and then responds, “I was born like this.” And I just freeze. What am I supposed to say to that? Sincerely, Jen from Minnesota Mabel: Hi Jen, sounds like a typical… Read More ›

Where do commitment issues stem from?

We all know someone who has trouble with commitment. You know the type—the serial dater, the person who suddenly stops calling or showing up when the relationship starts to progress. It can be frustrating for both sides. Insecure Attachment There are a few reasons why a person might struggle with commitment. They may have formed… Read More ›

Why is it so hard to build self-esteem?

Self-esteem, self-worth are so important to mental health. And, so many of us struggle with improving our self-esteem. We never feel good enough. We find it difficult to love ourselves, to be proud, to feel satisfied in our own shoes. Why?  Why is it so hard to build self-esteem? We live in a society where… Read More ›

Do you have unrealistic expectations about friendships?

I hear from clients all the time about how they are not able to maintain their friendships. They are kicking themselves, feeling bad, for not keeping the same relationships with their friends over time.  They used to go over to their friends’ homes, talk on the phone daily, and share all of lives little moments.… Read More ›

How much should you tell your new BF about your past?

People come and go out of our lives, friendships change and evolve, and new people fall into the role of best friend. When this happens there is often a series of thoughts that go through our heads — what do they need to know? What should I tell them about my past? There is no… Read More ›

It is ok to walk away

I have a client who recently moved to the East Coast. She lives in a very loud, busy, and overstimulating area. As with anyone moving to a new place, she was going through a period of adjustment and forming new friendships, trying to find her place.  In reaction to her fear of being lonely, she… Read More ›

Are you really being ‘fake’?

Clients tell me all the time that they feel “fake.” They are not their “true selves” when they are at work or with certain groups of people. But, is that really being fake? I often ask my clients ‘what are they pretending?’ And, then I ask them to consider if it is possible to be… Read More ›