I came across an article in The Washington Post the other day about the first sisters to become generals in the U.S. Army. The article made me feel proud to be a woman in this day and age and happy to see women putting themselves out there and going for these high-level military positions.
Anyone who is familiar with the military and the news knows that being a woman in the military is not an easy thing. Sexual assault reports for women in the military rose 38 percent last year.
Just 16 percent of the military’s 1.3 million active-duty personnel are women, according to the article. Faced with steep competition from their male counterparts, it is no wonder that many of these women fill low ranking positions.
Becoming a general is something that required a whole lot of hard work, according to these sisters. And, for that I commend them. They didn’t give up. They worked hard and earned these positions.
There is no question that as a nation we still have quite a bit of work to do in terms of gender equality. But, the best way to break down barriers and to shrink the gap is to keep trying. The more we stand up for ourselves, do what we believe in, fight for those positions we want (and deserve), then, the more we can continue to make headway in this constant struggle.
These women show us that any woman can accomplish her dreams if she puts her mind to it. We are strong. Whether it be becoming a football player or an Army general, women can fill the same roles as men. Women really can do anything. So, I thank these women for setting this example for others and for following their hearts.
Everyone expects that as a woman you will have kids. I hate that expectation. I don’t want kids. My mom, my boyfriend, my father, my grandparents, etc. all talk about me having a baby someday. But, I can’t even imagine being a mother. I don’t want to have kids. Is it selfish that I don’t want kids?
Sincerely, Charlotte from Nevada
Mabel: Hi Charlotte. It is not selfish for you to not want kids. The selfish thing would be for you to have kids just to please those around you and then not giving your kids the attention and care they need/deserve because you never wanted kids. You know yourself best and if you don’t want kids, then you don’t have to have them. It is fine to not want kids. The world is fine without you having kids. The world won’t end if you don’t have kids. Your family can wish whatever they want to wish. It is ok for them to wish. They can want you to have kids, but it does not mean you have too. You do not need to fulfill their needs. Do what feels right to you.
On a side note, it is also important that whoever you end up with is on the same page. Make it clear from the beginning of your relationships that you don’t want kids. This will help you to avoid the heartache later if your significant other has different feelings.
Just because you are a woman, does not mean that you need to have children. Follow your heart. Do what feels best for you.
Think periods. The cramps, the bloating, the aches, the moodiness, the downright shitty feeling. Does anyone actually feel good when they are on their period? Now think about what you do when you are on your period — do you talk about it? Noooo that’s taboo. Who talks about it? Well, 51 percent of the population goes through, or has gone through, a period — so why aren’t we comfortable talking about it?
Do you hide your pad or your tampon and scurry to the bathroom? Do you pretend that everything is ok when all you really want to do is curl up on the couch?
Part of being a woman
This is period shaming and it is something that many of us are accustomed to. We were raised as young girls to hide that we were having “that time of the month.” We buy tampons in discrete packaging. We purchase scented pads to ward off any passerby. Really girls? Yes, this is part of our life. It is part of being a woman. It is something we were born with. It is how we procreate. It is a beautiful—yet oh so miserable—part of human nature. Yet it feels like something we need to keep a secret. No one talks about it.
The other day I read an article in Ad Week and it really struck a chord with me as a woman. The article focused on a company that is changing the way women’s menstrual products are advertised. They are throwing out the famous blue liquid for a true blood depiction, without being too shock and awe, of course. Rather than showing women who are supposedly on their periods rollerblading, swimming, hiking, bike riding, and laughing with their friends and families, they are being real. For so long ads for women’s menstrual products have shamed women into thinking they need to hide this basic part of being female. Everything has been focused on “avoiding leaks,” “feminine scents,” “discrete packaging,” etc. It really is ridiculous when you think about it.
This company is doing it right. They are treating periods like the common cold. Let’s be real. No one is ashamed to grab a tissue when they have to sneeze. So, why is it so shameful to grab a pad when that time of the month strikes?
For more information, the full article is here: https://www.adweek.com/brand-marketing/how-one-of-todays-boldest-marketers-is-shattering-stigmas-inflicted-on-women-worldwide/